Life Advice for 20-Somethings, Given by People in their 30s+

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When you’re in your 20s, the world can feel extremely overwhelming. You’ve gotten your education, and your entire life, you kind of just thought things would fall into place after that. You’d find a job you love, meet the love of your life, have kids and live happily ever after. That, one day, you’d wake up and feel like an adult, and know exactly what that entails. But as every year passes, and the responsibilities continue stacking on, and you wake up every day tired and binging on cheap coffee, it’s easy to wonder what went wrong. What can you do to fix this? Will it get any better? What should I be doing? Am I life-ing correctly?

When I graduated college, I was determined to live a year abroad. After that, I figured I’d go back to get my Master’s and find my dream career. After working two full-time jobs for a year (to make sure I could continue to pay off my crippling debt of student loans), I made the move to Barcelona. Fast forward 4 years, and here I am, still in Barcelona. I’m working my ass off, that much hasn’t changed, but now I’m married to the man of my dreams and look forward to moving to a new country soon. I had always imagined that I’d have my life figured out by now, and this is not at all what I had imagined it to be. But you know what? That’s okay. I decided to follow my happiness, and it led me to this point. I can only continue on this journey of self-discovery and self-improvement and hope that eventually I land where I’m supposed to be.

But that doesn’t mean sitting around and waiting for things to happen. It means being honest with yourself, putting in hard work, and chasing the things that make you happy. Finding the things that you’re good at, and improving them. Searching for meaning.

Often people look back on their lives and regret having done something, or even worse – not having done something. Hindsight is always 20/20, am I right? But what if you could learn from other people’s mistakes, people who were in similar situations to you?

The internet can be a great way to glean this wisdom, if you know where to look. Recently, a Reddit user named¬†kyle768¬†asked the internet “What should one do in their 20s to avoid regrets in their 30s and 40s?” and the internet responded with this haul of great life advice:

1. “If you marry, marry someone because they are your best friend, you share a common philosophy on life, have common values, and want common goals in your future. Don’t marry someone because their ass looks good in jeans.” (Reddit user ZuluCharlieRider)

Luckily for me, I not only met my best friend and soul mate, but his ass just happens to look mighty fine to boot. But jokes aside, this is some fantastic advice. In this day and age of social media, where we are all constantly comparing ourselves to each other and trying to outdo one another, it can be easy to put on the rose-colored glasses and settle for someone whose Instagram feed is drool-worthy. I know it’s cliche, but looks fade. Find someone who will be with you through the good times and the bad. Who understands you for who you are, loves the good things about you, and understands the bad.

Of course, you can’t truly find and love someone else until you love yourself. Until you know what makes you happy, and can live happily on your own. For me, this came in the form of moving away from everything I ever knew, flying across the world, and moving in with a family of strangers. That first year was exhilarating, but also terrifying. It wasn’t all rainbows and butterflies, there were some seriously hard times. But I learned so much about myself, and started some new personal hobbies (I started my first blog, learned a new language, and began acrylic and watercolor painting).

In the midst of all of this, I met my husband. He loved me despite my faults, and encouraged me to continue improving myself, even helping me along the way. I don’t know how I got so lucky, but I’m so glad I did.

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2. “Drink more water. Look after your joints and back. You will feel invincible until your late 20’s, then it’ll suddenly all start catching up to you if you don’t look after yourself.” (Reddit user ArmchairTitan)

As I approach my 30s, this fills me with dread. I’m pretty good about drinking water, and I try to fit in yoga a couple times a week, but I can definitely improve. In the last couple years, I’ve slowly started to notice strange things happening with my body – a gray hair or two popping up, occasional knee and lower back aches, mysterious wrinkles appearing around my face… What is happening?! If I already feel this way now, I can’t imagine in 10 years.

Thankfully, you can improve these habits even if you’re busy following your dreams or traveling the world. I keep my reusable water bottle with me at all times, and fill it repeatedly throughout the day. You can do yoga or take a run almost anywhere, and use it as a way to appreciate your surroundings or explore a new place. No excuses! My motivation to keep myself happy now is so that, in 10 or 20 years time, I can continue to do the things I love, such as traveling.

3. “Follow through with any interest you have. There were a bunch of hobbies I wanted to get into, but at the first obstacle or challenge, I’d just go ‘eh whatever’ and give up.”

It’s easy to give up, but so much more rewarding if you put the effort in and follow through with your goals and hobbies. That feeling when you accomplish or create something is incredible – and it much outweighs the feeling of regret you feel every time you look back at that time you gave up so easily on something. It’s easy to put things off, with the excuse that you’ll have more free time at some point in the future. But that isn’t true, and often times is the exact opposite. You have the most freedom in your 20s, take advantage and try something new!

4. “The scariest thing about getting older isn’t aging. It’s watching all the possibilities life had when you were younger start to decay. Virtually every day you’ll be hit with the question, ‘So this is it, huh?’ Life takes on an increasingly meaningless and tedious feeling as you get into your 30s. One of the best ways to get through these doldrums is to have an interest you really care about outside of work, friends and family. Something that no matter how much your life sucks you can still do and find satisfaction and meaning in and nobody can take away from you.” (Reddit user SleepyConscience)

Another great argument for following your dreams and finding something(s) that make you truly happy, as an individual. You can’t always rely on someone else for your happiness, and it can be dangerous to do so. Find out what you like, and follow it. It is super easy to make excuses, or put it off for sometime in the future when you “have more time” – but let’s be honest, that time will never come. Just do it! (No, I am not sponsored by Nike xP)

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