Life Advice for 20-Somethings, Given by People in their 30s+

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When you’re in your 20s, the world can feel extremely overwhelming. You’ve gotten your education, and your entire life, you kind of just thought things would fall into place after that. You’d find a job you love, meet the love of your life, have kids and live happily ever after. That, one day, you’d wake up and feel like an adult, and know exactly what that entails. But as every year passes, and the responsibilities continue stacking on, and you wake up every day tired and binging on cheap coffee, it’s easy to wonder what went wrong. What can you do to fix this? Will it get any better? What should I be doing? Am I life-ing correctly?

When I graduated college, I was determined to live a year abroad. After that, I figured I’d go back to get my Master’s and find my dream career. After working two full-time jobs for a year (to make sure I could continue to pay off my crippling debt of student loans), I made the move to Barcelona. Fast forward 4 years, and here I am, still in Barcelona. I’m working my ass off, that much hasn’t changed, but now I’m married to the man of my dreams and look forward to moving to a new country soon. I had always imagined that I’d have my life figured out by now, and this is not at all what I had imagined it to be. But you know what? That’s okay. I decided to follow my happiness, and it led me to this point. I can only continue on this journey of self-discovery and self-improvement and hope that eventually I land where I’m supposed to be.

But that doesn’t mean sitting around and waiting for things to happen. It means being honest with yourself, putting in hard work, and chasing the things that make you happy. Finding the things that you’re good at, and improving them. Searching for meaning.

Often people look back on their lives and regret having done something, or even worse – not having done something. Hindsight is always 20/20, am I right? But what if you could learn from other people’s mistakes, people who were in similar situations to you?

The internet can be a great way to glean this wisdom, if you know where to look. Recently, a Reddit user named kyle768 asked the internet “What should one do in their 20s to avoid regrets in their 30s and 40s?” and the internet responded with this haul of great life advice:

1. “If you marry, marry someone because they are your best friend, you share a common philosophy on life, have common values, and want common goals in your future. Don’t marry someone because their ass looks good in jeans.” (Reddit user ZuluCharlieRider)

Luckily for me, I not only met my best friend and soul mate, but his ass just happens to look mighty fine to boot. But jokes aside, this is some fantastic advice. In this day and age of social media, where we are all constantly comparing ourselves to each other and trying to outdo one another, it can be easy to put on the rose-colored glasses and settle for someone whose Instagram feed is drool-worthy. I know it’s cliche, but looks fade. Find someone who will be with you through the good times and the bad. Who understands you for who you are, loves the good things about you, and understands the bad.

Of course, you can’t truly find and love someone else until you love yourself. Until you know what makes you happy, and can live happily on your own. For me, this came in the form of moving away from everything I ever knew, flying across the world, and moving in with a family of strangers. That first year was exhilarating, but also terrifying. It wasn’t all rainbows and butterflies, there were some seriously hard times. But I learned so much about myself, and started some new personal hobbies (I started my first blog, learned a new language, and began acrylic and watercolor painting).

In the midst of all of this, I met my husband. He loved me despite my faults, and encouraged me to continue improving myself, even helping me along the way. I don’t know how I got so lucky, but I’m so glad I did.

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2. “Drink more water. Look after your joints and back. You will feel invincible until your late 20’s, then it’ll suddenly all start catching up to you if you don’t look after yourself.” (Reddit user ArmchairTitan)

As I approach my 30s, this fills me with dread. I’m pretty good about drinking water, and I try to fit in yoga a couple times a week, but I can definitely improve. In the last couple years, I’ve slowly started to notice strange things happening with my body – a gray hair or two popping up, occasional knee and lower back aches, mysterious wrinkles appearing around my face… What is happening?! If I already feel this way now, I can’t imagine in 10 years.

Thankfully, you can improve these habits even if you’re busy following your dreams or traveling the world. I keep my reusable water bottle with me at all times, and fill it repeatedly throughout the day. You can do yoga or take a run almost anywhere, and use it as a way to appreciate your surroundings or explore a new place. No excuses! My motivation to keep myself happy now is so that, in 10 or 20 years time, I can continue to do the things I love, such as traveling.

3. “Follow through with any interest you have. There were a bunch of hobbies I wanted to get into, but at the first obstacle or challenge, I’d just go ‘eh whatever’ and give up.”

It’s easy to give up, but so much more rewarding if you put the effort in and follow through with your goals and hobbies. That feeling when you accomplish or create something is incredible – and it much outweighs the feeling of regret you feel every time you look back at that time you gave up so easily on something. It’s easy to put things off, with the excuse that you’ll have more free time at some point in the future. But that isn’t true, and often times is the exact opposite. You have the most freedom in your 20s, take advantage and try something new!

4. “The scariest thing about getting older isn’t aging. It’s watching all the possibilities life had when you were younger start to decay. Virtually every day you’ll be hit with the question, ‘So this is it, huh?’ Life takes on an increasingly meaningless and tedious feeling as you get into your 30s. One of the best ways to get through these doldrums is to have an interest you really care about outside of work, friends and family. Something that no matter how much your life sucks you can still do and find satisfaction and meaning in and nobody can take away from you.” (Reddit user SleepyConscience)

Another great argument for following your dreams and finding something(s) that make you truly happy, as an individual. You can’t always rely on someone else for your happiness, and it can be dangerous to do so. Find out what you like, and follow it. It is super easy to make excuses, or put it off for sometime in the future when you “have more time” – but let’s be honest, that time will never come. Just do it! (No, I am not sponsored by Nike xP)

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24 Quotes to Inspire You to Pack Your Bags and Travel the World

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Traveling has been my one true passion in life. It keeps you on your toes, forces you to open your eyes and see the world from a different perspective, and accept things as they come. It also reminds you about what truly matters in life – the people you surround yourself with and the joy that comes from living in the moment.

It is so easy to get swept away in the routine of things and, before you know it, weeks, months or even years have passed by, and you have nothing to show for it. I’ve heard so many people in my life saying “Yeah, I’ll go travel, but first I need to __________.” But once you accomplish whatever that is, then there’s always another obstacle, another goal. That’s human nature.

But if you keep putting it off, one day you’ll wake up realizing that you missed your opportunity. Sure, perhaps you can go traveling once you’ve saved up a lot of money or are retired, but will those experiences be the same as if you had gone while you were still young and able-bodied? Traveling takes courage, especially if you want to do it long-term. But it is worth it.

I spent my first two years abroad making next to nothing, and yet I visited 10 new countries and met some amazing people along the way, including my husband. I will hold these memories forever in my heart, and I look forward to exploring the world even more – there’s still so much left to see! Each country I visit teaches me something new, both about the world and about myself, and these experiences and lessons are invaluable – I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

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So, what are you waiting for? Read through some of my favorite travel quotes to motivate you to take the plunge and live your life the way you’ve always wanted it to be!

  1. “And then there is the most dangerous risk of all – the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” – Randy Komisar

  2. “Man is born to live, not to prepare to live.” – Boris Pasternaaway-3024773_1920

  3. “I see my path, but I don’t know where it leads. Not knowing where I’m going is what inspires me to travel it.’ – Rosalia de Castro

  4. “Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.” – Jennifer Lee

  5. “A journey is a person in itself; no two are alike. And all plans, safeguards, policing, and coercion are fruitless. We find that after years of struggle that we do not take a trip; a trip takes us.” – John Steinbeck

  6. “A good traveler has no fixed plans and is not intent on arriving.” – Lao Tzunature-3122169_1920

  7. “We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm, and adventure. There is no end to the adventures we can have if only we seek them with our eyes open.” – Jawaharial Nehru

  8. “Traveling is a brutality. It forces you to trust strangers and to lose sight of all that familiar comfort of home and friends. You are constantly off balance. Nothing is yours except the essential things – air, sleep, dreams, the sea, the sky – all things tending towards the eternal or what we imagine of it.” – Cesare Pavese

  9. “Travel isn’t always pretty. It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you- it should change you. It leaves marks on your memory, on your consciousness, on your heart, and on your body. You take something with you… Hopefully, you leave something good behind.” – Anthony Bourdain

  10. “Travel is never a matter of money but of courage.” – Paolo Coelho

  11. “Our happiest moments as tourists always seem to come when we stumble upon one thing while in pursuit of something else.” – Lawrence Block

  12. “Unexpected travel suggestions are dancing lessons from God.” – Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.

  13. “Because in the end, you won’t remember the time you spent working in the office or mowing your lawn. Climb that goddamn mountain.” – Jack Kerouac

  14. “During the first period of a man’s life the greatest danger is not to take the risk.” – Soren Kierkegaard

  15. “I can’t think of anything that excites a greater sense of childlike wonder than to be in a country where you are ignorant of almost everything. Suddenly you are five years old again. You can’t read anything, you have only the most rudimentary sense of how things work, you can’t even reliably cross a street without endangering your life. Your whole existence becomes a series of interesting guesses.” – Bill Bryson

  16. “If you reject the food, ignore the customs, fear the religion and avoid the people, you might better stay at home.” – James Michener

  17. “I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.” – Douglas Adams

  18. “To my mind, the greatest reward and luxury of travel is to be able to experience everyday things as if for the first time, to be in a position in which almost nothing is so familiar it is taken for granted.” – Bill Bryson

  19. “Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry, but by demonstrating that all peoples cry, laugh, eat, worry, and die, it can introduce the idea that if we try and understand each other, we may even become friends.” – Maya Angelou

  20. “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” – Neale Donald Walsch

  21. “The difference between a tourist and a traveler is that a tourist doesn’t know where he’s been and a traveler doesn’t know where he’s going.”

  22. “You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.” – Thoreau

  23. “A ship in harbor is safe, but that’s not what ships are for.” – William Sheddsea-67911_1920

  24. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain

Do you have any other quotes that inspire you? Share them below! I’d love to hear about all of your experiences!

Happy travels! I hope this inspired you to work towards the things that truly matter in life. Your happiness is the most important thing in this world – go find it.

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